How Can ADHD Coaching Help After A Late Diagnosis?

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Being a member of the Late Diagnosis Club is no joke 

We've finally got the answer to what’s been holding us back all our lives. But then, a new kind of unease sets in: the need to make up for lost time.

All that time:

• Frustrated by unexplained underperformance,

• Perplexed by the inconsistencies

And

• Constantly apologising for not living up to people’s expectations.
  

We just want to get on with life and finally live up to the potential we’ve always known we have.

You’ve probably heard that ADHD coaching can help.

But you may unsure about how. Which isn't surprising when: 

• Coaches bombard you with confusing language, icky motivational quotes, unrelatable lifestyles and promises of ‘living your best life’

And you hear that:

• “coaching is unregulated industry” and “anyone can be a coach”

And then, there's:

• People who call themselves coaches but what they’re providing isn’t really coaching

Not to mention:

• ALL THAT NEUROTYPICAL ADVICE!

The options are plentiful, so it can feel like you've more chance of winning the lottery than finding a good coach! 

Cue overload.

And procrastination! 

Because when it all feels too difficult, we opt out of making a decision

We procrastinate when things are ambiguous, uncertain & we’re unclear. 

Because we stick with what we know, even though it might not be the best thing for us.

It’s human nature: how our brain is wired.

But here’s the thing: 

Good quality coaching can be transformational, especially for ADHDers.

And when you don't understand how it can help, you’re staying stuck when you really don’t need to.

If you’re reading this, you're probably considering ADHD coaching

And I’m as passionate about the benefits of ADHD coaching, as I am about helping people with ADHD to thrive. 

So, it’s time to cut through the bull and bring a practical, clear & transparent approach to coaching.

When we do that, you get the right help for you.

How ADHD coaching can help after a late diagnosis:

Learn about ADHD

Let’s face it: for most of us, the professional support we get starts & finishes at diagnosis.

Few, if any of us get any information about what ADHD really is. We’re left to sort the truth from the myths, stereotypes and misinformation.

But, as helpful as social media was in helping you to realise you had ADHD, what got you this far won’t get you to the next stage.

Understanding the ADHD brain is a key pillar in us moving forward in life following late diagnosis and it’s what you’ll learn when you work with me.

Calm The Chaos

Remember the relief you felt when you realised you’re not the terrible person you thought you were. That your challenges are not character flaws or moral failings?

And those frequent aha moments when you realise “oh yeah, this is ADHD too”?

But, there’s a whole world of difference between being able to explain that you do something because of ADHD and understanding why you do it.

We're all different: understanding your unique brain, means you go from having an explanation to having the key to unlock change.

Shift The Shame

Procrastination, oversharing, being late, low energy days, losing stuff: many ways in which ADHD impacts us also have an impact on others.

We’ve often felt like a ‘bad person’ and carried shame for many years. But we can’t shame ourselves into change: if that worked, we’d have changed by now!

Self-acceptance is key to moving forward after late diagnosis: acceptance of all of us, our strengths and our challenges.

When you work with me, you’ll learn to shift from shame to self-acceptance, because when we stop shaming ourselves, we take back control.

Create Changes That Work For Your Brain

There’s a big difference between having lots of information about ADHD and managing it.

The key managing it is to identify what your brain needs to thrive: what it specifically needs and turning those needs into changes, strategies or actions.

Learning what your brain needs takes time, practice & persistence. When you work with me, I support you to overcome obstacles, be persistent & practice until you find what works 

You’ll understand the operating manual for your brain and gain the confidence to know that making changes and achieving your potential is within your reach.

Sustainable Solutions

We’ve spent our life trying to do things in ways that are simply not designed for our brain.

Managing our ADHD is about trying differently, not harder. It’s about developing sustainable solutions that work for your brain without leading to burnout.

And also, about developing a flexible, persistent mindset to find solutions for when things stop working, as they can do when our circumstances change and at different life stages.

I’ll also help you to develop a core set of self-coaching skills so you can identify practical & workable solutions to overcome new challenges and roadblocks as they arise.

It’s never too late

A late diagnosis of ADHD can be the key that unlocks our ability to finally fulfil the potential we’ve always known we have.

But it won’t just happen with information alone.

When you work with me, I’ll help you turn that information into the operating manual for your brain and put in place practical sustainable strategies and changes that will help you thrive without burnout.

If that sounds like what you need, book a free call and let’s see if we’re a good fit for each other.

Categories: : ADHD, ADHD Coaching, Coaching, Late Diagnosis, Lated Diagnosed ADHD